We each have a story—a history filled with heartache, devastation, joy, aspirations, and hope. Your feelings are yours; they are valid, and they are your right. It has taken me decades, but the most profound and raw self-work I’ve done has been over the last nine years. It’s painful and difficult, but it’s so damn rewarding.

If I had to guess, you’ve probably been there too. Maybe you didn’t think you worked hard enough to deserve that promotion. Perhaps you blamed yourself when your partner was unkind or believed you didn’t deserve that little treat because you missed a workout. Maybe you felt guilty about taking an hour for yourself because you didn’t finish tasks for your kids. But now, something’s changed. Why now? For me, I simply got tired of feeling unworthy. I started asking, “Why can’t I just have what I want without feeling like I have to overwork or ‘earn it’?”