It’s easy to get stuck in relationships that drain us, believing chaos or mediocrity is the norm. But choosing yourself first is a powerful shift. Start by acknowledging your worth and recognizing the impact of unhealthy relationships. Set boundaries, invest in activities that empower you, and celebrate your independence. Let go of what no longer serves your growth. It’s not selfish—it’s essential. Embrace the life you deserve, and trust that shedding what holds you back will create space for something better.

We each have a story—a history filled with heartache, devastation, joy, aspirations, and hope. Your feelings are yours; they are valid, and they are your right. It has taken me decades, but the most profound and raw self-work I’ve done has been over the last nine years. It’s painful and difficult, but it’s so damn rewarding.

If I had to guess, you’ve probably been there too. Maybe you didn’t think you worked hard enough to deserve that promotion. Perhaps you blamed yourself when your partner was unkind or believed you didn’t deserve that little treat because you missed a workout. Maybe you felt guilty about taking an hour for yourself because you didn’t finish tasks for your kids. But now, something’s changed. Why now? For me, I simply got tired of feeling unworthy. I started asking, “Why can’t I just have what I want without feeling like I have to overwork or ‘earn it’?” 

I often think back to all the things I had been asking for. The common denominator on every one of my wish lists over the years, the one constant was and still is “freedom.”  I think it’s fair to say that word represents something different for each of us. For me, it’s freedom of time. To choose where I go, when I want, and with whom I want; to be able to come and go as I please from any location and to feel peace around me. Stillness, nature, people enjoying life. To look around every day and be mesmerized by what surrounds me. Pride in the life I have created. That’s my freedom.